1. Begin by telling yourself that the new year will be the best year of your life. Going into the process with this positive attitude may help motivate you through the tougher parts. That can be the first thing you write down, if you wish. For example, at the top of my paper, I might write: “2012 Will Be The Best Year of My Life!”
2. Think of — and write down — the good things you want for yourself, your business, and those you love. Try not to let anything get in the way of writing these down. For example, don’t think…yes, but if only I could afford it! Just write it down.
If you find yourself with a mental block, you can try a number of creative ways to get in touch with your dreams…
- Take a walk outside and talk it over it with a trusted friend.
- Look through your favorite magazines. What articles and photos do you respond to?
- Get big sheets of paper and markers and make BIG lists. That’s how I do it! Post-It makes a great easel sized paper with sticky surfaces to stick on the wall.
- Get lots of different colors of post it notes, with wishes and goals on each one.
- Draw pictures of yourself succeeding in your goal(s)
- If you find you are really stuck, try this imagination-liberating exercise: imagine how you would live your life if you won the lottery. What would you do? Write it down.
3. Categorize your goals. This will help you organize your thoughts. You can dedicate a sheet of paper (or several) to each! Or use different post-it note colors for different areas of your life. Or open a notebook (in Mac Microsoft Word) and dedicate a tab to each section. Whatever method helps you organize your thoughts in a fun and effective way, go for it.
Types of Personal Goals
- Recreation/fun (e.g., concerts, museums, sports)
- Education/School/Classes/Self-Improvement/New Skills
- Physical Fitness/exercise
- Healthy Diet/food-related
- Healthy Behaviors/Mindset (e.g. smoking, stress, positive outlook)
- Personal appearance/grooming
- Love relationships/marriage/dating
- Career/Business/Networking/Professional Associations
- Home Purchase/Home Improvement/Home organization
- Related to Parenting/children/pets/family
- Spiritual/religious/life purpose
If you get to this point, you will have a whole lot of goals. You may see a pattern, or one or two goals may leap out at you as the most important. This will help as you start to write the objectives that help you reach your goals. The objectives are the steps along the way that will help you reach your larger goal, or resolution, for the year.
4. Refine and Elaborate Your Personal Goals. So at this point, you have to do a reality check, and start prioritizing the goals you have identified. Which are the most important to you? Which are the most easy to achieve? There is an acronym that many personal coaches recommend, called SMART
- Specific. Make the goal specific. Write it in as positive a tone as you can.
- Measurable. What would define success for you? Losing weight? Or losing fifteen pounds?
- Attainable. Perhaps you might not be able to buy a new car this year. But could you save $25 a week?
- Realistic. Some of your dreams may not be realistic at this point. That’s okay. It’s still good to be aware of them. But stretch your perception of what may be attainable. You may be able to achieve those dreams, or some version of them. You may surprise yourself.
- Time-based. Set a time-limit for your goals, with specific dates. Be sure to include a few modest goals that can be achieved in a relatively short time-frame. That will build your confidence, as you achieve them.
5. Plan How You Will Deal with Obstacles At some point in the goal writing process (it can be towards the end, or in the middle, but it shouldn’t be in the beginning), you can also write down the obstacles that may get in the way of achieving the goals, and decide how you are going to deal with them. This will be an ongoing process throughout the year, by the way, and you may have to adjust, revise, or even abandon goals as these obstacles come up. And that’s okay! Sometimes, a goal has to be postponed. I never have anticipated that I will achieve each and every one of my goals, and I never have, but I try to achieve the most important ones, and the most fun ones. If I don’t meet one goal, there are always others to work on.
The most common obstacles people cite are lack of money, time, and motivation. For lack of money and time, I think it is useful, especially if you are new to personal goal-setting, to set modest goals that don’t cost a lot of money but that will have a big pay-off. For example, it does not generally cost anything to drink more water, or take a half-hour walk each day, but both of these life-changes can have tremendously positive results for your health.
For lack of motivation, the best thing to do is, again, to set small goals, and remind yourself along the way of your success. You can keep your resolutions online, or on an index card (if you only have a few). Whatever you do, write them down! Keep your list with you and read it whenever you can. It is also helpful to share your goals with a positive and supportive person who can help keep you motivated.
Still, as you go through the year, you will encounter people, situations, and problems that may get in your way. There will be people, perhaps even some of your friends, or your boss, children, parents, or spouse, who will be less than supportive or neutral about your progress or achievement. It can be easy to get pigeon-holed into a role, and when you try to break free of that perception people have of you, they may resist it. (Some people, of course, will be wildly supportive!) Or perhaps you are in a job that is not helping you move forward in your career. It could be anything. At that time, ask yourself: is this person/thing/situation taking me farther from or closer to my goals? You cannot afford to let “vampires” drain away your positive energy or enthusiasm, so find away to overcome these obstacles as you work toward your goals.
You will also have sacrifices to make as you reach your goals. They may be small or great. At the very least, you will have to expend effort. Be prepared to give up something, or to work extra hard. For example, if you want to learn new skills that will help you on the job, you will have to pay for classes, which means that you may have to adjust your vacation plans for the year, or buy fewer new clothes. Or if your goal is to improve your personal appearance, maybe you’ll spend more money on clothes! Just give some thought to what you are willing to give up in order to achieve your goals.
- Get Ready to Write Resolutions – For You, For Your Business (fletcher-prince.com)
- Setting Goals: Creating Your Resolutions Retreat (fletcher-prince.com)
Space to Think, Space to Dream
Goal setting involves a lot of thinking! As you assemble your thoughts and tools, the one thing you need — in addition to time — is space. Space, in two senses. You need space in your mind — uninterrupted, uncluttered time to focus on a plan for a new year. Time away from your children and your commitments, even if only for an hour or two. You need a mini-retreat, or maybe several, if you tackle this in stages.
Finding Your Space
What kind of space do you need to think? When you really need to focus, does it help you to be in a quiet environment? Or do you prefer a little noise?
How about a big, quiet space where you can work for an hour — or a few hours — with some table or desk space, a chair, plenty of wall space to tack your notes up, and room to walk around?
- A borrowed conference room at work
- A community center room
- A study room at the library
- Even a hotel room!
If you can’t work well in a quiet environment, and need a little hub-bub to work your best, why not take your laptop or notebook to Starbuck’s or another coffee place?
Bringing Your Tools to Your Thinking Space
Here are some tools to take with you to your “retreat.”
- A 2012 calendar to plan and write in dates. I use the spiral bound monthly calendars from Staples.
- Something to drink, like coffee or water.
- An iPod and earbuds, if music helps you concentrate
- Gum or mints, or hand-fidgets, if they help you concentrate
- Easel paper pads and post-its
- Tape and scissors (you might cut up your goals and move them around)
- Highlighters and markers
- Pens and notebooks, a laptop
- Post-it notes in various colors
- A favorite magazine or other reading materials
- Maybe a camera, if you want to document your efforts
- These notes (and previous blog posts this week)
- Copies of the action-plan1 and action-plan-example
- Something to carry it all in, like a big tote bag
Should you work alone, with a relative, or with a friend?
That really depends on you. I do recommend sharing your thoughts and work with a friend or relative you trust at a stage where you feel you have organized your thoughts and prioritized your goals. Let them help you refine and shape your plan, and make suggestions. And let them support and advise you through the year.
But perhaps in the beginning, while you are in the dream stage, you might want to work alone, with calls or visits with friends to touch base and to get support.
It’s up to you. Work how you work best!
Finishing the Plan
When you have come up with your goals and resolutions, get them on paper. I keep mine in my purse, in a little notebook.
Good luck with your resolutions! Happy New Year, everybody!